Three Cheers for My Husband

I just realized that I have not written anything on this blog about the wonderful man I married. We've been married for six years now and some would say that my lack of information on him stems from that fact. I don't want you be confused though, he's not just part of the furniture. Although, there are times when I'm afraid the furniture is becoming part of him.

He's not a romantic man. He's never been a romantic man. Non-romantic people do not suddenly wake up one morning being romantic. He will never become romantic, and I can depend on that.

He will always wait until the last minute to buy gifts for me on special occasions. He would site the reason as just not knowing what to get me, but it's really that he's just not romantic.

He will never throw a ton of flowery compliments my way. He's not going to jump to meet me at the door when I come in from work, and he may not kiss me near as much as I would like for him to.

BUT--Lots of times when I come in from work there will be cold Dr. Pepper waiting for me on the counter. He likes to come up behind me and kiss my neck while I am washing dishes or cooking supper. Plus, he gets up and goes to work everyday. He cooks supper about twice a week and he gives the children their baths about three times a week.

He is always patient with the kids. He believes in sharing all the wonders of this world with them. And I will always have memories of things like the days that he would sit for hours holding one of the girls while they slept. I'm not talking about times when they are sick or restless. These were (and are) times when he just needed to hold them. During those times, it hits home that we are in this thing together. He is just as wrapped up in those two little girls as I am.

He's dependable. He gives me stability and I know I can trust him. So what if he never takes me dancing. We are wrapped up in the dance of our busy lives and he leads me, step by step, every day. No, he's not romantic. But he is in love and he's not alone. I'm right there with him.

Just a note--

If you have never read anything by T. R. Pearson, go directly RIGHT NOW to your local bookstore and pick up anything they have by him.

Oh, and pay for it too.

Let's All Throw a "Christian Party"

Headline this morning on MSN--"Dean Defends View of GOP as 'Christian Party.'" It's time to stop the insanity.

Let's start with the fact that Dean was name-calling in the first place. The first rule of public speaking should be to never deal in absolutes. You cannot say that a political party is made up of entirely one demographic. It's like those tricky questions they give you on I.Q. tests. "If all snerks are snerds but not all snerts are snerds, is Howard Dean still an idiot?" Yes.

He was wrong to say such a thing in the first place. But he's even more stupid to try to take it back. I believe that a law should be passed that if you say something stupid, you should not be allowed to even try to take it back or apologize in anyway. If you have the capacity for idiocy, you should have to bear the consequences of idiocy. Also, if you say something brilliant (hypothetically) but it offends someone, by golly, you ought have the balls (excuse the expression) to say, "Tough. Get over yourself."

In response to Mr. Dean's comments, I am appalled that being a white Christian is such an awful thing these days. I am appalled that Dean, admittedly a "white Christian," is so ashamed of those two facts himself. I guess its okay to believe anything as long as it's not the Bible or the resurrection of Christ. It's okay to be any race, except white. If you are one of those unlucky people, don't let yourself associate with enough others like you to become a majority anywhere. That would be wrong.

Diversity is going to be the downfall of our nation. Hear me out. When you start pandering to everyone and don't truly stand for anything you are headed down the path to destruction. That's what happens when someone becomes afraid that they will offend someone by standing up for what they believe.

How refreshing it would be to have someone make a comment and dare to say, "I don't care who doesn't like it." What good is the 1st Ammendment if we don't have the guts to use it?

"Sticking feathers up your butt does not make you a chicken."--Tyler Durden (Fight Club)

Right on Tyler! I couldn't agree more. Most people today are sticking feathers up their butts and believing that they are chickens. We are not unique snowflakes.

This is the biggest manufactured LIE that has ever been told. From the time I was a very small child I was told how special I was. What no one was telling me was that every other child my age was being told the same thing. Then, all of a sudden they send us to school. They put us all in a room together and we started to notice (those of us who were smart enough) that we were all the same. But chiefly, that not one of us was special and all of us thought we were.

Now there are people that never discover this truth. Basically it's flawed logic. Not everyone can be special because if we all are then nobody is. The people that still believe that they are special tend to be those who expect special privileges.

These are the people who, in spite of their selfish, pathetic, greed-driven lives, still believe that they are better than the rest of us. I have a "friend" who just finalized a divorce from a man she never wanted to be married to, never treated right, and on whom she blames the divorce. She has custody of their child, who she leaves in the care of her mother most of the time while she goes out partying every night of the week. She works a part-time job, goes to college and lives at home with her parents. She is 26 years old. It's time to stop being a teenager. But does she know this? No. Because she is special. She is better than everyone she knows. So much better in fact, that she doesn't feel she should have to work a full-time job, or support herself or her daughter. She is so special that she feels it is okay to lie about anything and everything to everyone. It's the saddest thing I've ever seen. I've never known anyone who knew less about who they were.

To a degree, most people need to realize that they are not special. It keeps you humble and helps you realize the value in work. Alot of the problems with America's youth stem from the belief that they are above work. Why are they above work? Because they are so special!

Of course, I can understand why parents fall into this trap. When you have a child, you do believe that they are special in many ways. However, we need to be careful in how the message gets to our children. After all, there is a difference between being unique and being better than others. We should celebrate uniqueness, without teaching our children to be biggotted snots.

Have a nice day!